Gain more self esteem and practice less self criticism.
EMBRACE YOUR INNER CRITIC and YOUR INNER NURTURER
DATES three Wednesday series - May 18, 25, June 1, 2022
TIME 5:00pm - 6:30 pm PST / 8:00pm - 9:30 pm EST
COST $195 full series
The Inner Critic is the inner voice that mimics our critical parents, teachers and society. Its main function is to help us fit in and avoid rejection and criticism from the outside world. Unfortunately it can also lead us to feelings of low self esteem, anxiety, disconnection from others, and lack of acceptance and care for ourselves. It can separate us from our intrinsic sense of well being and confidence.
The Inner Critic can be found in the shadow of many symptoms such as: overeating, over working, stress related illnesses, mental confusion and obsessive thinking, perfectionism, depression, etc. Attempts to destroy the Inner Critic only serve to strengthen it. What we resist, persists.
Join us as we learn more about the Inner Critic, how to comfort and care for it, while also learning to access and balance its opposite, the Inner Nurturer. Practice how to transform your Inner Critic from a crippling adversary into a productive ally. Sitting with Selves meditation will be used at the end of each session to ground the experience.
Feel free to reach out to me with any questions. This group is kept small, reserve your place by paying thru Venmo, PayPal or Zelle. For credit card payments connect to me by phone. Individual sessions are always available by appointment.
Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone are the originators of Voice Dialogue and authors of the book Embracing Your Inner Critic. Recommended but not necessary readings: Embracing Your Inner Critic by Drs. Stone, The Path of Relationship by Dianne Braden.
CARE FOR THE ADDICT SELF
Individual session are available. Small groups form a few times a year.
Addiction definition: a compulsive, chronic, physiological or psychological need for a habit-forming substance, behavior, or activity having harmful physical, psychological, or social effects.
Substance addictions may include, sugar, over or under eating, smoking, drugs and/or alcohol.
Behavioral addictions definition: an intense desire to repeat some action that is pleasurable or perceived to improve well being or capable of alleviating some personal distress. What classifies some behaviors as addictive is the difficultly those affected have with stopping or reducing their participation in it. Behavioral addictions may include, exercising, gambling, sex, gaming, tv watching, nail biting, worrying, social media use, aggression, etc.
Care for The Addict Self. A deep dive into getting to know the Addict Self through Voice Dialogue facilitation and Sitting with Selves meditation. Gain more understanding and compassion for the Addict Self and the other Selves that are involved in addiction patterns.
Increase breathing room around the Addict Self's urges and impulses.
Practice Sitting with Selves meditation and learn how to use it to strengthen choice making ability.
This is recommended to those (and isn’t this most of us) who would like to find a compassionate and powerful way to relate to the Addict Self in our own lives.
Also for those who would like to learn an additional modality to aid people professionally and/or personally who are struggling with addiction.
SELVES TO SOBRIETY and SITTING WITH SELVES MEDITATION
individual three session series . Learn powerful tools for enhancing and supporting your addiction recovery journey. All participants must be in a recovery process. Beginners to recovery, people who have relapsed and are back in recovery, and people with long term recovery can benefit. The process is not affiliated with AA but it is in line with AA’s understanding of addiction. These individual ZOOM sessions lead you through a series of self awareness exercises designed to increase your conscious contact with parts of yourself referred to as Selves. You may find that some of these Selves are over expressed in your personality, and some are under expressed. As polarized inner selves are brought into balance, a Sober Consciousness
emerges. Selves to Sobriety is combined with Sitting with Selves meditation. Together they become a powerful skill set for enhancing and supporting your recovery.
DATES and TIMES OF YOUR OWN CHOOSING
COST individual session fees apply
Contact iudita at 216 310 4423 or at email@example.com with any questions or to schedule your appointment.
iudita Harlan is the originator and developer of Selves to Sobriety and Sitting with Selves meditation. She is a senior *Voice Dialogue facilitator with over thirty years experience in private practice, and forty years in recovery. Individual sessions, couples, group facilitation, supervision and trainings are available.
TRAINING IN VOICE DIALOGUE 2022
Hal Sone The Power of Voice Dialogue https://www.youtube.com/watchv=3GYzUTCGW6U&list=PLXzG4XAmM1uY_1SgdQa2NwL3As_Gfc6ml
Voice Dialogue Facilitator Training
Four 90 minute sessions + one hour
individual session with iudita
DATES AND TIMES: decided by participants
COST: $910 limit 6 participants
Would you like to add Voice Dialogue facilitation and intervention to your existing skill set when working with individuals and groups? Would you like to enhance your resilience, relational skills, self awareness, personal growth and well being through the Voice Dialogue framework and consciousness process? This training opportunity may be just what you are looking for.
VOICE DIALOGUE FACILITATOR TRAINING
Individual Voice Dialogue Training tailored to your particular interests and application, the Individual Training format consists of four 90 minute sessions. Each session includes teaching, supervision, facilitation, and Sitting with Selves meditation.
The cost for the basic Individual Training program is $1,800.
One, one hour supervised session is included. Follow up sessions are always available.
Professional Training and Study of the Voice Dialogue process is a deep dive into Voice Dialogue and its many applications. It is recommended for those who want to learn and apply Voice Dialogue to their professional life and/or to deepen their own personal process.
Contact iudita 216 310 4423 by text, phone, or email to reserve your place in the group facilitator training and with any questions. The following areas are covered:
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A FEW PAST WORKSHOPS
MAKE PEACE WITH YOUR EATING
Mindless Eating is not all in your head, it is in your body as well. Learn to Balance your Opposing Urges and Gain Real Choice making ability. Get to know the polarities within you that dictate your relationship to your body and your eating habits. In this three session experience you will explore the following polarities: the Empty Self and the Full Self, the Caregiver and the Self Caring, the Doing Self and the Being Self. As these Selves are brought into conscious balance, a stronger more stable awareness emerges. This awareness starts giving you the freedom to makes choices about how you nourish your body and feed your soul.
Sensory Awareness While Eating
In each session you will practice tuning into your body while you are eating, using unique Body Awareness exercises. These facilitations reconnect you to the natural signals your body sends. Learn to differentiate between the messages you receive from your rational mind, your sensing mouth, your yearning heart and your feeling belly.
SITTING WITH SELVES. This mindfulness practice helps you pause and tune into your natural wisdom. Your innate wisdom informs you about how to take care of your emotional as well as physical well being.
A SECOND LOOK AT OUR RELATIONSHIPS - this is a follow up to our January series. All who have experience with Voice Dialogue are welcome. We will continue to look to our dreams, group facilitation, Sitting with Selves meditation and self reflection, at our own relationship patterns, the energetic reality and interaction of Selves, and the teachings they bring us.
"Any relationship can be a teacher, once you know how to take advantage of the teaching it brings.” Drs.Hal and Sidra Stone, originators of Voice Dialogue,The Psychology of Selves
Is there anything that brings us more joy, more angst and more confusion then the dynamics of our relationships? A “bad" boss can ruin our days, and sometimes our nights. A difficult parent can lead us into a life long struggle to figure out how to get along with them, and with others who remind us of them. Our friend irritates us, our significant other drives us mad, a new lover starts reminding us of the last one we broke up with. Is there a way to look at these difficulties we encounter with a new set of eyes? Can relationships (not just romantic ones), and the challenges they present, become exciting roads to self knowledge, personal growth, and real empowerment? This group is limited to those who have had experience with voice dialogue and are interested in exploring their own particular relationship patterns. The group is limited in size.
To reserve your place call or text iudita at 216 310 4423, email her at firstname.lastname@example.org.
MAKE PEACE WITH YOUR INNER CRITIC and
EMBRACE YOUR INNER NURTURER
This group is open to anyone who would like to experience more self compassion and less self criticism. Experience with voice dialogue is not necessary. No matter how much growth, self care, personal achievement and insight we gain, for some of us our Inner Critic has many ways to block our souls desire. As Dr. Hal Stone often said, "The Inner Critic is probably the most intelligent of all the Selves, finding ways to block us both coming and going.” This is especially true when we feel vulnerable in a situation.
We will practice embracing our INNER CRITIC and our INNER NURTURER. You will have an opportunity to explore this powerful polarity and to experience the centered consciousness and wise pause that the Aware Ego process provides.
The Inner Critic is found in the shadow of many symptoms such as overeating, over working, stress related illnesses, mental confusion and obsessive thinking. It is the destructive voice that lurks in our unconscious creating feelings of unworthiness, depression and fueling addictions. Until now the Inner Critic, which does indeed cause intense suffering, has been treated as an enemy by most therapeutic systems.
Attempts to destroy the Inner Critic only serve to strengthen it. What we resist persists. "What were you thinking? You look terrible, too fat, too short, too old, too tall. You are such a loser, what will they think? I can't believe you did that, said that, felt that, wore that!" Sound familiar? Welcome to your Inner Critic.
How can we feel good about ourselves when we have such a harsh inner voice talking to us? Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone are the originators of Voice Dialogue and authors of the book, Embracing Your Inner Critic. They created a consciousness process that transforms the Inner Critic from a crippling adversary to a productive ally.
Iudita uses Voice Dialogue Group Facilitation and Sitting with Selves Meditation to help you learn how to recognize the underlying anxieties and vulnerability of your Inner Critic, how to embrace your Inner Critic, while also embracing your Inner Nurturer, and most importantly, how your Inner Critic can become an intelligent, perceptive, and supportive partner in your life.
Recommended but not necessary readings: Embracing Your Inner Critic by Drs. Stone, The Path of Relationship by Dianne Braden, Jungian Analyst.
CARE FOR CAREGIVERS To be a Caregiver is to be a Teacher, Therapist, Parent, Boss, Manager, Aide, Nurse, Doctor, Friend, Adult Child, etc. We are everywhere. To be a Caregiver is to be overwhelmed much of the time by the Selves that keep us going, driven to stay responsible and self sacrificing, no matter that we are tired and depleted. Compelled to show up for others, no matter our personal needs and desires. I invite you to join this three Sunday session of Group Voice Dialogue facilitation and Sitting with Selves meditation created just for you. Each 75 minute session is designed to help increase your emotional resilience during these difficult times.
We will practice balancing the following polarities using Group Voice Dialogue facilitation and Sitting with Selves meditation: Responsible and Carefree, Self Sacrificing and Self Serving, Driven and Idle.
INCREASE YOUR EMOTIONAL STABILITY This three Sunday series of 75 minute Voice Dialogue facilitations, and Sitting with Selves meditation, is designed to help you increase your emotional stability and resilience. Each week we will practice balancing polarities that are most relevant during these times of change and uncertainty. We will work with the following polarities, Entitled and Excluded, Greedy and Altruistic, Liberal and Conservative.
This is an easy and helpful way to support yourself in managing your emotional life, and a great opportunity to introduce friends and family to the simple yet powerful consciousness tool of Voice Dialogue..
Iudita presents the workshops and trainings listed here, as well as Hellerwork for the Elderly, Sitting with Selves Meditation, and others. Call or email Iudita to get the latest information, or to have a program designed specifically for the needs of your staff, your clients, or your group.
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THE BUSINESS OF VOICE DIALOGUE
The program that strengthens the integrity of you and your business.
Working with the tension of polarities, Iudita facilitates the well being of
your employees, your business relationships, and your professional life.
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SELVES TO SOBRIETY
This is a cutting edge Awareness Training based on Iudita's 39 years of
observing , studying, and gathering the most effective tools that support long term recovery, from alcohol and drug addiction.
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STOP MINDLESS EATING
Iudita's popular workshop uses Mind Body Awareness training and Voice
Dialogue facilitation, to address the difficulties encountered with eating and
self nourishment. New workshops are scheduled often.
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BALANCE FOR HEALTH CARE PROFESSIONALS
This comprehensive program trains doctors, nurses, managers, and aids,
in balancing the demands of care giving, with the maintenance of strong self care. Among others, Iudita has facilitated 200+ nurses and managers at University Hospitals of Cleveland- Ahuja Medical Center.
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VOICE DIALOGUE STUDIES
Through workshops, retreats, intensives, and individual trainings, Iudita teaches the tools of Voice Dialogue facilitation. Teachings can be tailor made for those interested in learning how to facilitate clients, patients, teams, as well as their own personal, and professional growth.
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Iudita specializes in preparing witnesses using Voice Dialogue, and Mind Body Awareness. Through this powerful and experiential approach, witnesses are prepared to present themselves with the right demeanor, and confidence, for deposition, hearing, and trial.
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