Right Size Your Inner Critic
Voice Dialogue and Sitting with Selves Contemplation
group facilitation series May/June, 2003
The intention of this group facilitation series is to right size the Inner Critic and allow it to become a personal ally.
*at the first session we will schedule for next two dates and times that suit all attendees
WHEN *Sunday, May 28, 2023
9:30am -11:00 am PDT/ 12:30pm-2pm EST
COST $210 for the full series
reserve by texting iudita at 216 310 4423 and paying thru Venmo, PayPal or Zelle
Each session will include:
- working with Dreams,
- Group Voice Dialogue facilitation
- Sitting with Selves contemplation
- time for questions and sharing
In this group you will:
- practice balancing your Inner Critic with your Inner Nurture through group facilitation
- get to know what Vulnerabilities your Inner Critic is trying to protect and find new ways to care for them
- experience embracing your Disowned Selves consciously, (with an Aware Ego process) so that your Inner Critic can rest.
The group is open to those who want to learn experientially how to help themselves and others who suffer from a strong Inner Critic. Working in a group setting helps humanize the experience of Selves and the Inner Critic, encourages deeper feelings of self compassion, self acceptance, and choice making ability. Feel free to reach out with any questions.
Individual sessions are always available by appointment.
CARE FOR THE ADDICT SELF
Individual session are always available by appointment. Small groups form a few times a year.
Addiction definition: a compulsive, chronic, physiological or psychological need for a habit-forming substance, behavior, or activity having harmful physical, psychological, or social effects.
Substance addictions may include, sugar, over or under eating, smoking, drugs and/or alcohol.
Behavioral addictions definition: an intense desire to repeat some action that is pleasurable or perceived to improve well being or capable of alleviating some personal distress. What classifies some behaviors as addictive is the difficultly those affected have with stopping or reducing their participation in it. Behavioral addictions may include, exercising, gambling, sex, gaming, tv watching, nail biting, worrying, social media use, aggression, etc.
Care for The Addict Self is a deep dive into getting to know the Addict Self through Voice Dialogue facilitation and Sitting with Selves meditation. Gain more understanding and compassion for the Addict Self and the other Selves that are involved in addiction patterns.
Increase breathing room around the Addict Self's urges and impulses.
Practice Sitting with Selves meditation and learn how to use it to strengthen choice making ability.
Recommended to those who would like to find a compassionate and powerful way to relate to the Addict Self .
Also for those who would like to learn an additional modality to aid professionally and/or personally those who are struggling with addiction.
SELVES TO SOBRIETY and SITTING WITH SELVES MEDITATION
individual three session series . Learn powerful tools for enhancing and supporting your addiction recovery journey. All participants must be in a recovery process. Beginners to recovery, people who have relapsed and are back in recovery, and people with long term recovery can benefit. The process is not affiliated with AA but it is in line with AA’s understanding of addiction. These individual ZOOM sessions lead you through a series of self awareness exercises designed to increase your conscious contact with parts of yourself referred to as Selves. You may find that some of these Selves are over expressed in your personality, and some are under expressed. As polarized inner selves are brought into balance, a Sober Consciousness
emerges. Selves to Sobriety is combined with Sitting with Selves meditation. Together they become a powerful skill set for enhancing and supporting your recovery.
DATES and TIMES OF YOUR OWN CHOOSING
COST individual session fees apply
Contact iudita at 216 310 4423 or at firstname.lastname@example.org with any questions or to schedule your appointment.
iudita Harlan is the originator and developer of Selves to Sobriety and Sitting with Selves meditation. She is a senior *Voice Dialogue facilitator with over thirty years experience in private practice, and forty years in recovery. Individual sessions, couples, group facilitation, supervision and trainings are available.
Hal Sone The Power of Voice Dialogue https://www.youtube.com/watchv=3GYzUTCGW6U&list=PLXzG4XAmM1uY_1SgdQa2NwL3As_Gfc6ml
VOICE DIALOGUE FACILITATOR TRAINING - GROUP
Four 90 minute sessions PLUS one hour individual session with iudita
DATES AND TIMES: based on participants' needs
limit 6 participants
Would you like to add Voice Dialogue Facilitation as an additional intervention methodology to your existing skill set when working with individuals and/or groups? Would you like to enhance your resilience, relational skills, self awareness, personal growth and well being through the Voice Dialogue framework and consciousness process? This training opportunity is what you might be looking for.
VOICE DIALOGUE FACILITATOR TRAINING - INDIVIDUAL
Individual Voice Dialogue Training is tailored to your particular interests and applications. The Individual Training format consists of four 90 minute sessions. Each session includes teaching, supervision, facilitation and the Sitting with Selves contemplation practice.
One 90 minute SUPERVISED session by iudita is included in the training. Follow up sessions are always available.
Professional Training and Study of the Voice Dialogue process is a deep dive into Voice Dialogue and its many applications. It is recommended for those who want to learn and apply Voice Dialogue to their professional life and/or to deepen their own personal process.
Contact iudita 216 310 4423 by text, phone, or email to reserve your place in the group facilitator training and with any questions. The following areas are covered:
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EMBRACE YOUR WORRIER AND YOUR CALM SELF
Anxious, disturbed, bothered, uneasy, fearful, dreading - the list goes on trying to describe the experience we have with our Worried Inner Self, a self many of us find so difficult to manage.
- Are you a part time worrier, a full time worrier, a worrier only in reaction to sudden bad news?
- Are you a chronic worrier about anything and everything that could happen?
- Do you save your worries for certain categories like health, potential accidents, driving over bridges, potential loss of loved ones, work, exams, finances, new situations, the unknown, love relationships, social situations?
Through Voice Dialogue facilitation and Sitting with Selves contemplation you will learn:
- How to get breathing room around your worried self.
- How to understand and care for this most vulnerable and sensitive of our inner selves.
- How to balance your Worried Self with your Calm Self.
- How to gain a grounded and conscious seat from which to embrace both selves.
Voice Dialogue, the Psychology of Selves as developed by Drs.Hal and Sidra Stone does not pathologies, reject, or suppress any self. The goal is to increase the depth and width of a consciousness, the Aware Ego process, that can hold all of ourselves with compassion, care, curiosity and peace.
A CONTINUED LOOK AT OUR RELATIONSHIPS
Through Voice Dialogue group facilitations, Sitting with Selves meditation and self reflection, we look at our relationship patterns, the energetic reality and interaction of Selves, and the potential for growth they bring us.
Is there anything that brings us more joy, more angst or more confusion than the dynamics of our relationships? A “bad" boss can ruin our days and sometimes our nights. A difficult parent can lead us into a life long struggle to get along with them, and with others who remind us of them. Our friend irritates us, our significant other drives us mad, a new lover starts reminding us of the old one.
Is there a way to look at relationship difficulties through a new perspective? Can relationships, (not just romantic ones), and the challenges they bring become an exciting road to self knowledge, personal growth and real empowerment?
Controlled by the Selves - Drs. Stone’s theory of bonding patterns provides us with an easy to understand technology of relationship. Learn how difficulties can be a source of creative change, of greater ability to have choice in behavior, and ultimately can lead us to more nourishing connections.
Energetics - modern science and ancient wisdom both teach about the importance of what is not seen, of the field that surrounds matter, of how interactions feel to us. The emphasis on the energetics of relationship in Voice Dialogue enables us to work directly with this field in our interpersonal life.
VOICE DIALOGUE AND SITTING WITH SELVES
Open to a new and fuller life experience, and help others to do so, using Sitting with Selves™ contemplation and Voice Dialogue facilitation
You are guided through Voice Dialogue facilitation to discover and experience your own polarized Inner Selves and learn the practice of Sitting with Selves™ contemplation. Witness the informed consciousness and unique energetic reality of holding opposite Selves. Join us as we explore the merging of Voice Dialogue, the Psychology of Selves and the contemplative practice of Sitting with Selves™.
Sitting with Selves™ is proving to be an effective means of strengthening what Drs.Hal and Sidra Stone, the creators of Voice Dialogue refer to as the Aware Ego process.
No prior experience is needed. For those who are therapists or facilitators, Voice Dialogue and Sitting with Selves™ contemplation can be used as a powerful added tool for helping clients strengthen their self awareness and consciousness process.
MAKE PEACE WITH YOUR EATING
Mindless Eating is not all in your head, it is in your body as well. Learn to Balance your Opposing Urges and Gain Real Choice making ability. Get to know the polarities within you that dictate your relationship to your body and your eating habits. In this three session experience you will explore the following polarities: the Empty Self and the Full Self, the Caregiver and the Self Caring, the Doing Self and the Being Self. As these Selves are brought into conscious balance, a stronger more stable awareness emerges. This awareness starts giving you the freedom to makes choices about how you nourish your body and feed your soul.
Sensory Awareness While Eating
In each session you will practice tuning into your body while you are eating, using unique Body Awareness exercises. These facilitations reconnect you to the natural signals your body sends. Learn to differentiate between the messages you receive from your rational mind, your sensing mouth, your yearning heart and your feeling belly.
SITTING WITH SELVES. This mindfulness practice helps you pause and tune into your natural wisdom. Your innate wisdom informs you about how to take care of your emotional as well as physical well being.
MAKE PEACE WITH YOUR INNER CRITIC and
EMBRACE YOUR INNER NURTURER
This group is open to anyone who would like to experience more self compassion and less self criticism. Experience with voice dialogue is not necessary. No matter how much growth, self care, personal achievement and insight we gain, for some of us our Inner Critic has many ways to block our souls desire. As Dr. Hal Stone often said, "The Inner Critic is probably the most intelligent of all the Selves, finding ways to block us both coming and going.” This is especially true when we feel vulnerable in a situation.
We will practice embracing our INNER CRITIC and our INNER NURTURER. You will have an opportunity to explore this powerful polarity and to experience the centered consciousness and wise pause that the Aware Ego process provides.
The Inner Critic is found in the shadow of many symptoms such as overeating, over working, stress related illnesses, mental confusion and obsessive thinking. It is the destructive voice that lurks in our unconscious creating feelings of unworthiness, depression and fueling addictions. Until now the Inner Critic, which does indeed cause intense suffering, has been treated as an enemy by most therapeutic systems.
Attempts to destroy the Inner Critic only serve to strengthen it. What we resist persists. "What were you thinking? You look terrible, too fat, too short, too old, too tall. You are such a loser, what will they think? I can't believe you did that, said that, felt that, wore that!" Sound familiar? Welcome to your Inner Critic.
How can we feel good about ourselves when we have such a harsh inner voice talking to us? Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone are the originators of Voice Dialogue and authors of the book, Embracing Your Inner Critic. They created a consciousness process that transforms the Inner Critic from a crippling adversary to a productive ally.
Iudita uses Voice Dialogue Group Facilitation and Sitting with Selves Meditation to help you learn how to recognize the underlying anxieties and vulnerability of your Inner Critic, how to embrace your Inner Critic, while also embracing your Inner Nurturer, and most importantly, how your Inner Critic can become an intelligent, perceptive, and supportive partner in your life.
Recommended but not necessary readings: Embracing Your Inner Critic by Drs. Stone, The Path of Relationship by Dianne Braden, Jungian Analyst.
CARE FOR CAREGIVERS To be a Caregiver is to be a Teacher, Therapist, Parent, Boss, Manager, Aide, Nurse, Doctor, Friend, Adult Child, etc. We are everywhere. To be a Caregiver is to be overwhelmed much of the time by the Selves that keep us going, driven to stay responsible and self sacrificing, no matter that we are tired and depleted. Compelled to show up for others, no matter our personal needs and desires. I invite you to join this three Sunday session of Group Voice Dialogue facilitation and Sitting with Selves meditation created just for you. Each 75 minute session is designed to help increase your emotional resilience during these difficult times.
We will practice balancing the following polarities using Group Voice Dialogue facilitation and Sitting with Selves meditation: Responsible and Carefree, Self Sacrificing and Self Serving, Driven and Idle.
INCREASE YOUR EMOTIONAL STABILITY This three Sunday series of 75 minute Voice Dialogue facilitations, and Sitting with Selves meditation, is designed to help you increase your emotional stability and resilience. Each week we will practice balancing polarities that are most relevant during these times of change and uncertainty. We will work with the following polarities, Entitled and Excluded, Greedy and Altruistic, Liberal and Conservative.
This is an easy and helpful way to support yourself in managing your emotional life, and a great opportunity to introduce friends and family to the simple yet powerful consciousness tool of Voice Dialogue..
Iudita presents the workshops and trainings listed here, as well as Hellerwork for the Elderly, Sitting with Selves Meditation, and others. Call or email Iudita to get the latest information, or to have a program designed specifically for the needs of your staff, your clients, or your group.
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THE BUSINESS OF VOICE DIALOGUE
The program that strengthens the integrity of you and your business.
Working with the tension of polarities, Iudita facilitates the well being of
your employees, your business relationships, and your professional life.
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SELVES TO SOBRIETY
This is a cutting edge Awareness Training based on Iudita's 39 years of
observing , studying, and gathering the most effective tools that support long term recovery, from alcohol and drug addiction.
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STOP MINDLESS EATING
Iudita's popular workshop uses Mind Body Awareness training and Voice
Dialogue facilitation, to address the difficulties encountered with eating and
self nourishment. New workshops are scheduled often.
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BALANCE FOR HEALTH CARE PROFESSIONALS
This comprehensive program trains doctors, nurses, managers, and aids,
in balancing the demands of care giving, with the maintenance of strong self care. Among others, Iudita has facilitated 200+ nurses and managers at University Hospitals of Cleveland- Ahuja Medical Center.
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VOICE DIALOGUE STUDIES
Through workshops, retreats, intensives, and individual trainings, Iudita teaches the tools of Voice Dialogue facilitation. Teachings can be tailor made for those interested in learning how to facilitate clients, patients, teams, as well as their own personal, and professional growth.
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Iudita specializes in preparing witnesses using Voice Dialogue, and Mind Body Awareness. Through this powerful and experiential approach, witnesses are prepared to present themselves with the right demeanor, and confidence, for deposition, hearing, and trial.
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