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CURRENT OFFERINGS 2024
RIGHT SIZE YOUR INNER CRITIC
FOR PEOPLE IN ADDICTION RECOVERY FREE Monthly Drop In group I have watched so many newcomers as well as old timers continue to struggle with a strong negative Inner Voice we call the Inner Critic. I am offering a FREE ONE HOUR RIGHT SIZE YOUR INNER CRITIC FOR RECOVERY drop in session the first Wednesday of each month. You are invited to come to one or more. Email to reserve your place. NEXT SESSION October 2, 2024 WHEN 4:00 - 5:00 pm PDT / 7:00 - 8:00 pm EST WHERE ZOOM COST FREE If you are in recovery from drug/alcohol addiction you are welcome. If you know someone in recovery from drug/alcohol addiction and you think they could benefit from this experience feel free to share this invitation with them. Register by contacting iudita at [email protected]. A Zoom link will be sent to you the day of the session. Individual sessions are always available by appointment. - based on the work of Drs.Hal and Sidra Stone the originators of Voice Dialogue, the Psychology of Selves and authors of the book Embracing Your Inner Critic. The book makes for a good read and is available on audio as well as in paperback. There is NO required reading for this group. For information on Drs.Stone's work go to www.voicedialogueinternational.com 
CARE FOR THE ADDICT SELF
Individual sessions are always available by appointment. Small groups form a few times a year. Addiction definition: a compulsive, chronic, physiological or psychological need for a habit-forming substance, behavior, or activity having harmful physical, psychological, or social effects. Substance addictions may include, sugar, over or under eating, smoking, drugs and/or alcohol. Behavioral addictions definition: an intense desire to repeat some action that is pleasurable or perceived to improve well being or capable of alleviating some personal distress. What classifies some behaviors as addictive is the difficultly those affected have with stopping or reducing their participation in it. Behavioral addictions may include, exercising, gambling, sex, gaming, tv watching, nail biting, worrying, social media use, aggression, etc. Care for The Addict Self is a deep dive into getting to know the Addict Self through Voice Dialogue facilitation and Sitting with Selves meditation. Gain more understanding and compassion for the Addict Self and the other Selves that are involved in addiction patterns. Increase breathing room around the Addict Self's urges and impulses. Practice Sitting with Selves meditation and learn how to use it to strengthen your choice making ability. Recommended for those who would like to find a compassionate and powerful way to enter and stay on a recovery journey. Also for those who would like to learn an additional modality professionally and/or personally for helping those who are struggling with addiction. 
SELVES TO SOBRIETY and SITTING WITH SELVES MEDITATION
Individual sessions Learn powerful tools for enhancing and supporting your addiction recovery journey. All participants must be in a recovery process. Beginners to recovery, people who have relapsed and are back in recovery, and people with long term recovery can benefit. The process is not affiliated with AA but it is in line with AA’s understanding of addiction. These individual ZOOM sessions lead you through a series of self awareness exercises designed to increase your conscious contact with parts of yourself referred to as Selves. You may find that some of these Selves are over expressed in your personality, and some are under expressed. As polarized inner selves are brought into balance, a Sober Consciousness emerges. Selves to Sobriety is combined with Sitting with Selves contemplation. Together they become a powerful skill set for enhancing and supporting your recovery. DATES and TIMES OF YOUR OWN CHOOSING WHERE ZOOM COST individual session fees apply Contact iudita at 216 310 4423 or at [email protected] with any questions or to schedule your appointment. iudita Harlan is the originator and developer of Selves to Sobriety and Sitting with Selves meditation. She is a senior *Voice Dialogue facilitator with over thirty years experience in private practice, and forty years in recovery. Individual sessions, couples, group facilitation, supervision and trainings are available. MINDLESS EATING - A Doorway to Consciousness
Individual sessions Give yourself the gift of a more conscious and compassionate relationship to yourself and your self nourishment DATES AND TIMES OF YOUR CHOOSING WHERE ZOOM COST individual session fees apply Sensory Awareness while Eating In each session you will practice tuning into your body while you are eating using unique Body Awareness exercises. These exercises reconnect you to the natural signals your body sends to you while you are eating. Learn to differentiate between the messages you receive from your rational mind, mouth, heart, and belly. Voice Dialogue Facilitation Get to know the polarities that struggle within, such as the Body Dictator and the Rebel Eater, the Emotional Eater and the Inner Nurturer, the Hungry Wolf and the Vulnerable Child, the Pleaser and the Boundary Setter, the Thinking Mind and the Feeling Body. As these and other Selves are brought into conscious balance, a stronger more stable awareness emerges, the Aware Ego process. This awareness gives you the freedom to tune into your senses, your emotions, and your thinking, building a unified experience of yourself. Sitting with Selves contemplation, a Middle Ground practice Learn the powerful contemplative practice of Sitting with Selves. Gain the ability to use this practice in your daily life and watch how the care for yourself improves both emotionally and physically. Mindful Eating Facilitation is a cutting edge use of the Voice Dialogue process originated by Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone and applied to self nourishment by iudita Harlan. PAST WORKSHOPS
RIGHT SIZE YOUR INNER CRITIC
FOR RECOVERY - a Deeper Dive small group facilitation experience Many newcomers as well as old timers in recovery from addictions continue to struggle with a strong negative Inner Voice we call the Inner Critic.This inner voice can impede our ability to fully benefit from our recovery path and can play a role in relapse. In this two hour session you will practice befriending your Inner Critic as well as your Inner Nurturer through: Mapping the Inner Selves that support your recovery. Mapping the Inner Selves that interfere with your recovery. Group Voice Dialogue facilitation, Sitting with Selves contemplation. BALANCE YOUR RESPONSIBLE SELF and YOUR CAREFREE SELF Can we take care of our responsibilities and stay in touch with our carefree nature at the same time? Experience Voice Dialogue facilitation, the consciousness process training that allows you to stay in touch with both sides of yourself and leads you to experience a fuller and richer daily life. Learn - how to right size your Responsible Self - why it is overexpressed in some situations and under expressed in others - feel the freedom of the Carefree Self - know how to incorporate the Carefree Self and its joys and ease EMBRACE YOUR WORRIED AND YOUR CALM SELF Anxious, disturbed, bothered, uneasy, fearful, dreading - the list goes on trying to describe the experience we have with our Worried Inner Self, a self many of us find so difficult to manage. - Are you a part time worrier, a full time worrier, a worrier only in reaction to sudden bad news? - Are you a chronic worrier about anything and everything that could happen? - Do you save your worries for certain categories like health, potential accidents, driving over bridges, potential loss of loved ones, work, exams, finances, new situations, the unknown, love relationships, social situations? Through Voice Dialogue facilitation and Sitting with Selves contemplation you will learn: - How to get breathing room around your worried self. - How to understand and care for this most vulnerable and sensitive of our inner selves. - How to balance your Worried Self with your Calm Self. - How to gain a grounded and conscious seat from which to embrace both selves. Voice Dialogue, the Psychology of Selves as developed by Drs.Hal and Sidra Stone does not pathologies, reject, or suppress any self. The goal is to increase the depth and width of a consciousness, the Aware Ego process, that can hold all of ourselves with compassion, care, curiosity and peace. A CONTINUED LOOK AT OUR RELATIONSHIPS Through Voice Dialogue group facilitations, Sitting with Selves meditation and self reflection, we look at our relationship patterns, the energetic reality and interaction of Selves, and the potential for growth they bring us. Is there anything that brings us more joy, more angst or more confusion than the dynamics of our relationships? A “bad" boss can ruin our days and sometimes our nights. A difficult parent can lead us into a life long struggle to get along with them, and with others who remind us of them. Our friend irritates us, our significant other drives us mad, a new lover starts reminding us of the old one. Is there a way to look at relationship difficulties through a new perspective? Can relationships, (not just romantic ones), and the challenges they bring become an exciting road to self knowledge, personal growth and real empowerment? Controlled by the Selves - Drs. Stone’s theory of bonding patterns provides us with an easy to understand technology of relationship. Learn how difficulties can be a source of creative change, of greater ability to have choice in behavior, and ultimately can lead us to more nourishing connections. Energetics - modern science and ancient wisdom both teach about the importance of what is not seen, of the field that surrounds matter, of how interactions feel to us. The emphasis on the energetics of relationship in Voice Dialogue enables us to work directly with this field in our interpersonal life. VOICE DIALOGUE AND SITTING WITH SELVES Open to a new and fuller life experience, and help others to do so, using Sitting with Selves™ contemplation and Voice Dialogue facilitation You are guided through Voice Dialogue facilitation to discover and experience your own polarized Inner Selves and learn the practice of Sitting with Selves™ contemplation. Witness the informed consciousness and unique energetic reality of holding opposite Selves. Join us as we explore the merging of Voice Dialogue, the Psychology of Selves and the contemplative practice of Sitting with Selves™. Sitting with Selves™ is proving to be an effective means of strengthening what Drs.Hal and Sidra Stone, the creators of Voice Dialogue refer to as the Aware Ego process. No prior experience is needed. For those who are therapists or facilitators, Voice Dialogue and Sitting with Selves™ contemplation can be used as a powerful added tool for helping clients strengthen their self awareness and consciousness process. MINDLESS EATING - A Doorway to Consciousness The battle between polarized inner urges leads to seemingly meaningless repetitive behaviors. Relief from our anxious repetitions comes when we become aware of and integrate the messages these urges are bringing to us. *individual sessions are always available by appointment Get to know the polarities within you that dictate your relationship to your body, your eating habits, and your self nourishment. Voice Dialogue facilitation/the Psychology of Selves is used to explore relevant polarities. Sensory Awareness While Eating is practiced in each session to help reconnect you to the natural signals the body is sending. Learn to differentiate the messages sent from each area of the body involved when eating. Sitting with Selves contemplation is a guided meditation designed to help: - develop a more compassionate and balanced relationship with yourself - gain stronger choice making ability in nourishing emotionally, intellectually, and physically - create a daily practice to help ground the awareness you achieve. MAKE PEACE WITH YOUR INNER CRITIC and EMBRACE YOUR INNER NURTURER This group is open to anyone who would like to experience more self compassion and less self criticism. Experience with voice dialogue is not necessary. No matter how much growth, self care, personal achievement and insight we gain, for some of us our Inner Critic has many ways to block our souls desire. As Dr. Hal Stone often said, "The Inner Critic is probably the most intelligent of all the Selves, finding ways to block us both coming and going.” This is especially true when we feel vulnerable in a situation. We will practice embracing our INNER CRITIC and our INNER NURTURER. You will have an opportunity to explore this powerful polarity and to experience the centered consciousness and wise pause that the Aware Ego process provides. The Inner Critic is found in the shadow of many symptoms such as overeating, over working, stress related illnesses, mental confusion and obsessive thinking. It is the destructive voice that lurks in our unconscious creating feelings of unworthiness, depression and fueling addictions. Until now the Inner Critic, which does indeed cause intense suffering, has been treated as an enemy by most therapeutic systems. Attempts to destroy the Inner Critic only serve to strengthen it. What we resist persists. "What were you thinking? You look terrible, too fat, too short, too old, too tall. You are such a loser, what will they think? I can't believe you did that, said that, felt that, wore that!" Sound familiar? Welcome to your Inner Critic. How can we feel good about ourselves when we have such a harsh inner voice talking to us? Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone are the originators of Voice Dialogue and authors of the book, Embracing Your Inner Critic. They created a consciousness process that transforms the Inner Critic from a crippling adversary to a productive ally. Iudita uses Voice Dialogue Group Facilitation and Sitting with Selves Meditation to help you learn how to recognize the underlying anxieties and vulnerability of your Inner Critic, how to embrace your Inner Critic, while also embracing your Inner Nurturer, and most importantly, how your Inner Critic can become an intelligent, perceptive, and supportive partner in your life. Recommended but not necessary readings: Embracing Your Inner Critic by Drs. Stone, The Path of Relationship by Dianne Braden, Jungian Analyst. CARE FOR CAREGIVERS To be a Caregiver is to be a Teacher, Therapist, Parent, Boss, Manager, Aide, Nurse, Doctor, Friend, Adult Child, etc. We are everywhere. To be a Caregiver is to be overwhelmed much of the time by the Selves that keep us going, driven to stay responsible and self sacrificing, no matter that we are tired and depleted. Compelled to show up for others, no matter our personal needs and desires. I invite you to join this three Sunday session of Group Voice Dialogue facilitation and Sitting with Selves meditation created just for you. Each 75 minute session is designed to help increase your emotional resilience during these difficult times.
We will practice balancing the following polarities using Group Voice Dialogue facilitation and Sitting with Selves meditation: Responsible and Carefree, Self Sacrificing and Self Serving, Driven and Idle. INCREASE YOUR EMOTIONAL STABILITY This three Sunday series of 75 minute Voice Dialogue facilitations, and Sitting with Selves meditation, is designed to help you increase your emotional stability and resilience. Each week we will practice balancing polarities that are most relevant during these times of change and uncertainty. We will work with the following polarities, Entitled and Excluded, Greedy and Altruistic, Liberal and Conservative. This is an easy and helpful way to support yourself in managing your emotional life, and a great opportunity to introduce friends and family to the simple yet powerful consciousness tool of Voice Dialogue.. BEYOND TRAUMA
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Workshops
Iudita presents the workshops and trainings listed here, as well as Hellerwork for the Elderly, Sitting with Selves Meditation, and others. Call or email Iudita to get the latest information, or to have a program designed specifically for the needs of your staff, your clients, or your group. Find out more. THE BUSINESS OF VOICE DIALOGUE The program that strengthens the integrity of you and your business. Working with the tension of polarities, Iudita facilitates the well being of your employees, your business relationships, and your professional life. Find out more. SELVES TO SOBRIETY This is a cutting edge Awareness Training based on Iudita's 39 years of observing , studying, and gathering the most effective tools that support long term recovery, from alcohol and drug addiction. Find out more. STOP MINDLESS EATING Iudita's popular workshop uses Mind Body Awareness training and Voice Dialogue facilitation, to address the difficulties encountered with eating and self nourishment. New workshops are scheduled often. Find out more. BALANCE FOR HEALTH CARE PROFESSIONALS This comprehensive program trains doctors, nurses, managers, and aids, in balancing the demands of care giving, with the maintenance of strong self care. Among others, Iudita has facilitated 200+ nurses and managers at University Hospitals of Cleveland- Ahuja Medical Center. Find out more VOICE DIALOGUE STUDIES Through workshops, retreats, intensives, and individual trainings, Iudita teaches the tools of Voice Dialogue facilitation. Teachings can be tailor made for those interested in learning how to facilitate clients, patients, teams, as well as their own personal, and professional growth. Find out more. COURTROOM PREPARATION Iudita specializes in preparing witnesses using Voice Dialogue, and Mind Body Awareness. Through this powerful and experiential approach, witnesses are prepared to present themselves with the right demeanor, and confidence, for deposition, hearing, and trial. Find out more |