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OFFERINGS 2026
fRIGHT SIZE YOUR INNER CRITIC - free drop in
DATE Wednesday, January 28 TIME 5:30 - 6:30pm PDT / 8:30 - 9:30 pm EST WHERE ZOOM COST FREE reserve by emailing [email protected] In what ways does our Inner Critic block us from taking advantage of all that is available for our growth and healing? How can we help our Inner Critic become an ally rather than a tyrant? How do we introduce our Inner Nurturer as a balance to our Inner Critic? What We Resist Persists Until now the Inner Critic, which can indeed cause intense suffering, has been treated as an enemy by most therapeutic systems. This attempt to destroy the Inner Critic has often served to strengthen it. We have found that when its message is properly understood, the Inner Critic can become a powerful ally in our journey towards growth and wholeness. All are welcome. Feel free to share this invitation. Private sessions are always available by appointment. - based on the work of Drs.Hal and Sidra Stone the originators of Voice Dialogue, the Psychology of Selves and authors of the book Embracing Your Inner Critic. The book makes for a good read and is available in audio as well as paperback. It is NOT required reading. For imore nfo on Voice dialogue and the book www.voicedialogueinternational.com BEFRIEND YOUR DISCOMFORT DATE Four Sundays - February 15,22, March 1. * if not all dates fit your schedule, changes can be made by group consensus TIME 9:00 - 10:30 am PDT /12:00 -1:30pm EST WHERE ZOOM COST $425 for the full series Join our small supportive group and learn how to loosen the grip of the Inner Selves that hold your discomfort and pain. Each week you will experience the facilitation of a new Inner Self and its polar opposite. The following Inner Selves will be facilitated: Driven and Laid Back Control and Surrender Self Reliant and Dependent Guarded and Vulnerable Through Voice Dialogue, the Psychology of Selves facilitation (as developed by Drs.Hal and Sidra Stone, (voicedialogueinternational.com), you will experience how to bring these Selves into a balance and interrupt the discomfort - fear cycle. (The Pain Reprocessing Therapy Workbook by Venessa Blackstone, pgs.33-40 has a good description of Inner Selves (they call Protective Parts), and some good suggestions on how to start working with them.) You will be guided to experience these Selves one by one, embody them, listen to each side, feel and see the world through their perspective as you come to understand both their gifts and their limitations. You will learn how to befriend them without being taken over by them. How to sit in balance between them. The group is kept small so that each participant has space and time to unfold their own process Reserve your place by emailing [email protected] Feel free to contact iudita with any questions. Individual sessions are always available. VOICE DIALOGUE TRAININGS
In small and intimate groups and individual sessions learn how the Dance of Selves plays out in your personal and professional life. Group facilitation, energetic body awareness exercises, and individual facilitations are used to help participants gain the powerful Voice Dialogue tools needed. INDIVIDUAL TRAINING - the training is tailored to your needs and strengths covering all the material for Voice Dialogue Level One. the opportunity to practice facilitation under supervision the opportunity to receive facilitation and map out your inner Selves consist of four ninety minute teachings/facilitations scheduled to suit your schedule Voice Dialogue Level Two trainings are available for those who have completed Level One. GROUP TRAINING - (two or more participants) covering all the material for Voice Dialogue Level One.- opportunity to observe facilitations both individual and group opportunity to receive facilitation opportunity to practice facilitation under supervision consists of four two hour sessions scheduled to suit the attendees' schedule GROUP FACILITATION - three session series Throughout the year I offer Voice Dialogue three session series focusing on a selected theme. These are not direct trainings, but a great way to experience facilitation and gain a deeper understanding of yourself and the process. (Four attendees minimum.) 
CARE FOR THE ADDICT SELF
Individual sessions are always available by appointment. Small groups form a few times a year. Addiction definition: a compulsive, chronic, physiological or psychological need for a habit-forming substance, behavior, or activity having harmful physical, psychological, or social effects. Substance addictions may include, sugar, over or under eating, smoking, drugs and/or alcohol. Behavioral addictions definition: an intense desire to repeat some action that is pleasurable or perceived to improve well being or capable of alleviating some personal distress. What classifies some behaviors as addictive is the difficultly those affected have with stopping or reducing their participation in it. Behavioral addictions may include, exercising, gambling, sex, gaming, tv watching, nail biting, worrying, social media use, aggression, etc. Care for The Addict Self is a deep dive into exploring the Addict Self through Voice Dialogue facilitation and Sitting with Selves meditation. Gain more understanding and compassion for the Addict Self and the other Selves that are involved in addiction patterns. Increase breathing room around the Addict Self's urges and impulses. Practice Sitting with Selves meditation and learn how to use it to strengthen your choice making ability. Recommended for those who would like to find a compassionate and powerful way to enter and stay on a recovery journey, and also for those who would like to learn an additional tool to add to their professional and/or personal ability to help those who are struggling with addiction. 
SELVES TO SOBRIETY and SITTING WITH SELVES MEDITATION
Individual sessions Learn powerful tools for enhancing and supporting your addiction recovery journey. All participants must be in a recovery process. Beginners to recovery, people who have relapsed and are back in recovery, and people with long term recovery can benefit. The process is not affiliated with AA but it is in line with AA’s understanding of addiction. These individual ZOOM sessions lead you through a series of self awareness exercises designed to increase your conscious contact with parts of yourself referred to as Selves. You may find that some of these Selves are over expressed in your personality, and some are under expressed. As polarized inner selves are brought into balance, a Sober Consciousness emerges. Selves to Sobriety is combined with Sitting with Selves contemplation. Together they become a powerful skill set for enhancing and supporting your recovery. DATES and TIMES OF YOUR OWN CHOOSING WHERE ZOOM COST individual session fees apply Contact iudita at 216 310 4423 or at [email protected] with any questions or to schedule your appointment. iudita Harlan is the originator and developer of Selves to Sobriety and Sitting with Selves meditation. She is a senior *Voice Dialogue facilitator with over thirty years experience in private practice, and forty years in recovery. Individual sessions, couples, group facilitation, supervision and trainings are available. MINDLESS EATING - A Doorway to Freedom
Individual sessions Give yourself the gift of a more conscious and compassionate relationship to yourself and your self nourishment DATES AND TIMES OF YOUR CHOOSING WHERE ZOOM COST individual session fees apply Sensory Awareness while Eating In each session you will practice tuning into your body while you are eating using unique Body Awareness exercises. These exercises reconnect you to the natural signals your body sends to you while you are eating. Learn to differentiate between the messages you receive from your rational mind, mouth, heart, and belly. Voice Dialogue Facilitation Get to know the polarities that struggle within, such as the Body Dictator and the Rebel Eater, the Emotional Eater and the Inner Nurturer, the Hungry Wolf and the Vulnerable Child, the Pleaser and the Boundary Setter, the Thinking Mind and the Feeling Body. As these and other Selves are brought into conscious balance, a stronger more stable awareness emerges, the Aware Ego process. This awareness gives you the freedom to tune into your senses, your emotions, and your thinking, building a unified experience of yourself. Sitting with Selves contemplation, a Middle Ground practice Learn the powerful contemplative practice of Sitting with Selves. Gain the ability to use this practice in your daily life and watch how the care for yourself improves both emotionally and physically. Mindful Eating Facilitation is a cutting edge use of the Voice Dialogue process originated by Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone and applied to self nourishment by iudita Harlan. PAST WORKSHOPS
FEARFUL SELF + CALM SELF = realistic self care
Three session series Contrary to what many of us have been taught, trying to get rid of our fear only makes it stronger. As the saying goes, "what we resist persists." But how then can we change our habitual fear responses? Through Voice Dialogue, the Psychology of Selves facilitation (developed by Drs.Hal and Sidra Stone), we do not change our Inner Fearful Self. We befriend it. We contact the self directly, listening to its concerns and messages. We come to understand its gifts as well as its limitations. We also get to know our Calm Self, its messages, its gifts, and its limitations. Having access to both of these Selves, being in charge of how and when we use them, we move into an empowered freedom of choice in relationship to ourselves, our environment, and others. Why do we experience fear? Fear is an instinctual physical and emotional reaction that helps us detect and respond to threats and dangers in our environment. It prepares our body to fight or flee or freeze. It hyper focuses our mind so we can use it for surviving dangerous situations. How does a habitual pattern of fear affect us? When we feel fear these days, it is not because we are being chased by predators. Yet the physical responses we experience are the same even if the threat is low. Since our body believes we must prepare to fight or run or freeze, our muscles tighten, we become hyper vigilant, adrenaline rushes in. Fear and anxiety causes metabolic responses, and prolonged stress can cause physical and emotional reactions that can affect our long-term mental and physical health. Let's learn together how to befriend our strong reactions and gain breathing room and balance in relationship to them. Feel free to reach out to me with any questions. PEOPLE PLEASER + SELF CARE = the perfect couple Right Size your People Pleaser with Voice Dialogue, the Psychology of Selves email [email protected] to reserve your place THREE SESSION SERIES Sunday JULY 13, 20, 27 9 - 10:30 am PDT / 12-1:30pm EST COST $225 full series Voice Dialogue facilitation is an experiential process, there are no recordings made of any of the sessions offered. RIGHT SIZE YOUR INNER CRITIC FOR RECOVERY - a Deeper Dive small group facilitation experience Many newcomers as well as old timers in recovery from addictions continue to struggle with a strong negative Inner Voice we call the Inner Critic.This inner voice can impede our ability to fully benefit from our recovery path and can play a role in relapse. In this two hour session you will practice befriending your Inner Critic as well as your Inner Nurturer through: Mapping the Inner Selves that support your recovery. Mapping the Inner Selves that interfere with your recovery. Group Voice Dialogue facilitation, Sitting with Selves contemplation. BALANCE YOUR RESPONSIBLE SELF and YOUR CAREFREE SELF Can we take care of our responsibilities and stay in touch with our carefree nature at the same time? Experience Voice Dialogue facilitation, the consciousness process training that allows you to stay in touch with both sides of yourself and leads you to experience a fuller and richer daily life. Learn - how to right size your Responsible Self - why it is overexpressed in some situations and under expressed in others - feel the freedom of the Carefree Self - know how to incorporate the Carefree Self and its joys and ease A CONTINUED LOOK AT OUR RELATIONSHIPS
Through Voice Dialogue group facilitations, Sitting with Selves meditation and self reflection, we look at our relationship patterns, the energetic reality and interaction of Selves, and the potential for growth they bring us. Is there anything that brings us more joy, more angst or more confusion than the dynamics of our relationships? A “bad" boss can ruin our days and sometimes our nights. A difficult parent can lead us into a life long struggle to get along with them, and with others who remind us of them. Our friend irritates us, our significant other drives us mad, a new lover starts reminding us of the old one. Is there a way to look at relationship difficulties through a new perspective? Can relationships, (not just romantic ones), and the challenges they bring become an exciting road to self knowledge, personal growth and real empowerment? Controlled by the Selves - Drs. Stone’s theory of bonding patterns provides us with an easy to understand technology of relationship. Learn how difficulties can be a source of creative change, of greater ability to have choice in behavior, and ultimately can lead us to more nourishing connections. Energetics - modern science and ancient wisdom both teach about the importance of what is not seen, of the field that surrounds matter, of how interactions feel to us. The emphasis on the energetics of relationship in Voice Dialogue enables us to work directly with this field in our interpersonal life. VOICE DIALOGUE AND SITTING WITH SELVES Open to a new and fuller life experience, and help others to do so, using Sitting with Selves™ contemplation and Voice Dialogue facilitation You are guided through Voice Dialogue facilitation to discover and experience your own polarized Inner Selves and learn the practice of Sitting with Selves™ contemplation. Witness the informed consciousness and unique energetic reality of holding opposite Selves. Join us as we explore the merging of Voice Dialogue, the Psychology of Selves and the contemplative practice of Sitting with Selves™. Sitting with Selves™ is proving to be an effective means of strengthening what Drs.Hal and Sidra Stone, the creators of Voice Dialogue refer to as the Aware Ego process. No prior experience is needed. For those who are therapists or facilitators, Voice Dialogue and Sitting with Selves™ contemplation can be used as a powerful added tool for helping clients strengthen their self awareness and consciousness process. MAKE PEACE WITH YOUR INNER CRITIC and EMBRACE YOUR INNER NURTURER This group is open to anyone who would like to experience more self compassion and less self criticism. Experience with voice dialogue is not necessary. No matter how much growth, self care, personal achievement and insight we gain, for some of us our Inner Critic has many ways to block our souls desire. As Dr. Hal Stone often said, "The Inner Critic is probably the most intelligent of all the Selves, finding ways to block us both coming and going.” This is especially true when we feel vulnerable in a situation. We will practice embracing our INNER CRITIC and our INNER NURTURER. You will have an opportunity to explore this powerful polarity and to experience the centered consciousness and wise pause that the Aware Ego process provides. The Inner Critic is found in the shadow of many symptoms such as overeating, over working, stress related illnesses, mental confusion and obsessive thinking. It is the destructive voice that lurks in our unconscious creating feelings of unworthiness, depression and fueling addictions. Until now the Inner Critic, which does indeed cause intense suffering, has been treated as an enemy by most therapeutic systems. Attempts to destroy the Inner Critic only serve to strengthen it. What we resist persists. "What were you thinking? You look terrible, too fat, too short, too old, too tall. You are such a loser, what will they think? I can't believe you did that, said that, felt that, wore that!" Sound familiar? Welcome to your Inner Critic. How can we feel good about ourselves when we have such a harsh inner voice talking to us? Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone are the originators of Voice Dialogue and authors of the book, Embracing Your Inner Critic. They created a consciousness process that transforms the Inner Critic from a crippling adversary to a productive ally. Iudita uses Voice Dialogue Group Facilitation and Sitting with Selves Meditation to help you learn how to recognize the underlying anxieties and vulnerability of your Inner Critic, how to embrace your Inner Critic, while also embracing your Inner Nurturer, and most importantly, how your Inner Critic can become an intelligent, perceptive, and supportive partner in your life. Recommended but not necessary readings: Embracing Your Inner Critic by Drs. Stone, The Path of Relationship by Dianne Braden, Jungian Analyst. CARE FOR CAREGIVERS To be a Caregiver is to be a Teacher, Therapist, Parent, Boss, Manager, Aide, Nurse, Doctor, Friend, Adult Child, etc. We are everywhere. To be a Caregiver is to be overwhelmed much of the time by the Selves that keep us going, driven to stay responsible and self sacrificing, no matter that we are tired and depleted. Compelled to show up for others, no matter our personal needs and desires. I invite you to join this three Sunday session of Group Voice Dialogue facilitation and Sitting with Selves meditation created just for you. Each 75 minute session is designed to help increase your emotional resilience during these difficult times.
We will practice balancing the following polarities using Group Voice Dialogue facilitation and Sitting with Selves meditation: Responsible and Carefree, Self Sacrificing and Self Serving, Driven and Idle. INCREASE YOUR EMOTIONAL STABILITY This three Sunday series of 75 minute Voice Dialogue facilitations, and Sitting with Selves meditation, is designed to help you increase your emotional stability and resilience. Each week we will practice balancing polarities that are most relevant during these times of change and uncertainty. We will work with the following polarities, Entitled and Excluded, Greedy and Altruistic, Liberal and Conservative. This is an easy and helpful way to support yourself in managing your emotional life, and a great opportunity to introduce friends and family to the simple yet powerful consciousness tool of Voice Dialogue.. BEYOND TRAUMA
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Workshops
Iudita presents the workshops and trainings listed here, as well as Hellerwork for the Elderly, Sitting with Selves Meditation, and others. Call or email Iudita to get the latest information, or to have a program designed specifically for the needs of your staff, your clients, or your group. Find out more. THE BUSINESS OF VOICE DIALOGUE The program that strengthens the integrity of you and your business. Working with the tension of polarities, Iudita facilitates the well being of your employees, your business relationships, and your professional life. Find out more. SELVES TO SOBRIETY This is a cutting edge Awareness Training based on Iudita's 39 years of observing , studying, and gathering the most effective tools that support long term recovery, from alcohol and drug addiction. Find out more. STOP MINDLESS EATING Iudita's popular workshop uses Mind Body Awareness training and Voice Dialogue facilitation, to address the difficulties encountered with eating and self nourishment. New workshops are scheduled often. Find out more. BALANCE FOR HEALTH CARE PROFESSIONALS This comprehensive program trains doctors, nurses, managers, and aids, in balancing the demands of care giving, with the maintenance of strong self care. Among others, Iudita has facilitated 200+ nurses and managers at University Hospitals of Cleveland- Ahuja Medical Center. Find out more VOICE DIALOGUE STUDIES Through workshops, retreats, intensives, and individual trainings, Iudita teaches the tools of Voice Dialogue facilitation. Teachings can be tailor made for those interested in learning how to facilitate clients, patients, teams, as well as their own personal, and professional growth. Find out more. COURTROOM PREPARATION Iudita specializes in preparing witnesses using Voice Dialogue, and Mind Body Awareness. Through this powerful and experiential approach, witnesses are prepared to present themselves with the right demeanor, and confidence, for deposition, hearing, and trial. Find out more |